The books that we ordered

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Today we received the books that we ordered:"The Essential Family Guide to BPD" & "stop walking on eggshells".  Can't wait to read these books & put the info to good use.

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder Author: Randi Kreger Publisher: Hazelden (October 15, 2008) Paperback: 250 pages ISBN-10: 1592853633 ISBN-13: 978-1592853632

Stop Walking on Eggshells Author: Paul T. Mason MS, Randi Kreger Publisher: New Harbinger Publications (2nd Ed. 2010) Paperback: 240 pages ISBN-10: 1572246901 ISBN-13: 978-1572246904

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Today we received the books that we ordered:"The Essential Family Guide to BPD" & "stop walking on eggshells".  Can't wait to read these books & put the info to good use.

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder Author: Randi Kreger Publisher: Hazelden (October 15, 2008) Paperback: 250 pages ISBN-10: 1592853633 ISBN-13: 978-1592853632

Stop Walking on Eggshells Author: Paul T. Mason MS, Randi Kreger Publisher: New Harbinger Publications (2nd Ed. 2010) Paperback: 240 pages ISBN-10: 1572246901 ISBN-13: 978-1572246904

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[FaithHopeLove]

Those are excellent books. I hope you will share some of the insights you get from them with us. Keep reading amd learning
It helps.

[StressedOutDaily]

Walking on Eggshells should arrive at my door today, please let me know what you think about "The Essential Family Guide to BPD"

Thanks

[DriftlessRider]

Huh, after seeing you post I went to Amazon to order that book, and it says I already did  Maybe wife got it, now I need to search the house for it.

I am currently reading "Loving Someone with BDS" by Shari Manning and finding it very useful. But it's my first book so I have little to compare it too.

I found looking for a book kind of amusing, and the intro to this book a bit funny. There is an undertone of "How not to hate your BDS loved one", "How to survive", "I know you are ready to walk away, but ...".  Maybe funny is not the right word, maybe "telling". My road hasn't been easy, but I think I am also blessed in some ways. I think I have it easier than many.

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder Author: Shari Y. Manning, PhD Publisher: The Guilford Press; 1 edition (August 15, 2011) Paperback: 253 pages ISBN-10: 1593856075 ISBN-13: 978-1593856076

[livednlearned]

Valerie Porr's Overcoming BPD is also good. She goes into mentalization therapy a bit more in that one, if I remember correctly.

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change Author: Valerie Porr, MA Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA; 1 edition (August 12, 2010) Paperback: 424 pages ISBN-10: 0195379586 ISBN-13: 978-0195379587

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A Balanced Life: Coping with a Mentally Ill Loved One - Tom Smith
A Good Soldier - Ally Golden
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents ~ Lindsay Gibson. PsyD
Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families - John Friel
An Adult Child's Guide to What's "Normal"
An Umbrella for Alex - Rachel Rashkin, MS
Attached - Amir Levine, MD
Borderline Personality Disorder ~ Alexander L. Chapman PhD
Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified - Robert O. Friedel, MD
Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents - Blaise A. Aguirre, MD
Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide - Alex Chapman PhD
Boundaries - Henry Cloud PhD, John Townsend PhD
Brain-Based Parenting - Daniel A. Hughes, Ph.D.
Character Disturbance - George K. Simon Jr., PhD
Children Held Hostage - Stanley S. Clawar, PhD
Children of the Self Absorbed - Nina W. Brown
Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex - Amy Baker, PhD
Codependent No More - Melody Beattie
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving - Pete Walker, MFT
Conquering Shame and Codependency - Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT
Contemplating Divorce: A Guide to Deciding - Susan Gadoua, LCSW
Controlling People - Patricia Evans
Creating Loving Attachments - Daniel A. Hughes PhD.
Crossing the Borderline - Polly Fielding
Dance of Intimacy - Harriet Lerner, PhD
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DBT with Suicidal Adolescents - Alec L. Miller, PsyD
Diagnosing and Treating Co-Dependence - Timmen Cermack, MD
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, DSM-5
Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook - M. McKay, PhD
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Divorce Poison- Richard A. Warshak, PhD
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Eight Keys to Safe Trauma Recovery - Babette Rothschild, MSW, LCSW
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Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goldman, PhD
Essential Family Guide - Randi Kreger
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Get Me Out of Here - Rachel Reiland
Getting Past the Affair - Douglas K. Snyder PhD
Getting Respect and Dealing When Your Line Is Crossed - Courtney Macavinta
Grieving Mental Illness - Virginia Lafond
Growing Up and Older with a Mentally Ill Mother - Susan Nathiel
Hard To Love: Understanding and Overcoming Male Borderline Personality Disorder
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Hold Me Tight ~ Sue Johnson Phd
Hope & Healing: Helping Young Children Affected by Trauma - Kathleen Fitzgerald
How to Break Your Addiction to a Person - by Howard Halpern PhD
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I Hate You, Don't Leave Me - Jerold J. Kreisman, MD
If You Had Controlling Parents - Dan Neuharth, PhD
In An Unspoken Voice - Peter A. Levine, PhD
In My Corner on the Moon - Rachel Raskin-Shoot, PysD (Child)
Integrative Treatment for BPD - John Preston, Psy.D
Is a Worry Worrying You? - Ferida Wolff, Harriet May Savitz
It's All Your Fault! - Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq
Life at the Border: Understanding and Recovering from the BPD - L Heller, MD
Lost Childhoods: The Plight Of The Parentified Child - Gregory J. Jurkovic PhD
Loud in the House of Myself - Stacy Pershal
Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder - Shari Y. Manning, PhD
Loving the Self-Absorbed - Nina Brown, EdD
Mean Mothers - Peg Streep
Mindsight - Daniel J. Siegel MD
Missing: Coming to Terms with a Borderline Mother - Kathy Ewing
My Parents Keeper - Eva Marian Brown, LCSW
New Hope for People with BPD - Neil R. Bockian, PhD, Valerie Porr, M.A.
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Nonviolent Communication - Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD
One Way Ticket to Kansas - Ozzie Tinman
Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder by Valerie Porr, MA
Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions - Pat Harvey ACSW
Parenting Teens with Love And Logic - Foster Cline MD
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Perfect Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People - Susan F. Benjamin
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Sometimes My Mommy Gets Angry - Bebe Moore Campbell (Child)
Splitting; Protecting yourself While Divorcing a Borderline - William Eddy, Esq
Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist - Margalis Fjelstad, PhD, LMFT
Stop Walking on Eggshells - Paul T. Mason MS
Surviving a Borderline Parent - Kim Roth, Freda B. Friedman, PhD.
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Taking Care of Parents Who Didn't Take Care of You - Eleanor Cade
Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress - Mary Beth Williams, PhD
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The Betrayal Bond - Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D
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The High Conflict Couple - Alan E. Fruzzetti, PhD
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The Journey from Abandonment to Healing - Susan Anderson, MSW
The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple - Joan Lachkar, PhD
The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment - Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman
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The Search for the Real Self - James F. Masterson, MD
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The Weather House: Living with a Parent with BPD - R. Fraser, MD (Child)
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[Panda39]

Valerie Porr's Overcoming BPD is also good. She goes into mentalization therapy a bit more in that one, if I remember correctly.

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change Author: Valerie Porr, MA Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA; 1 edition (August 12, 2010) Paperback: 424 pages ISBN-10: 0195379586 ISBN-13: 978-0195379587

I really liked this book too good information and I remember feeling that it was empathetic towards the person with BPD.

Panda39

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Stressedoutdaily,

I'm reading the "eggshells" book first, but I will let you know when I start reading the other one.

ST1

[Mr. Dake]

Skip,

Wow!  You have the bibliography for a doctorate thesis.  I did a Doctor of Ministry in 2002.   My favorite part was the reading.  I found that when reading 100 books on a topic that a book might only have 5 original concepts.  Have you had a similar experience with reading so widely on BPD? 

[Mr. Dake]

Skip,

I'm feeling a little jealous!  I had a boss who had Narcissistic Personality Disorder.   Is there anything that you can do in a relationship with a person with that disorder?     

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders